When it rains, it pours

Dealing with death, Charlie Munger and soldiering on
May 3, 2024
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When it rains, it pours:

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When it rains, it pours.

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Sometimes life becomes too much.

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Too difficult.

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Too much loss.


Too much grief.

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Several people in your life all go.

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It happened to our family in 2021.

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Within 3 months, 3 people died.

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One from dementia.

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One from old age.

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The other from leukemia.

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3 people I knew my whole life were gone.

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Just like that.

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The two old people were hard.

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But it wasn’t unexpected.

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They lived a great life.

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They had beautiful kids and grandkids who are good people.

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But their time was up.

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The last one that had leukemia, his life was cut short.

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Dead at 33.

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Had a kid a month before he got diagnosed.

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2 years later, he was gone.

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Just like that.

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3 funerals in a few months.

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That happens to people throughout their life.


Just when you think it’s bad, something else happens.

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Life is always unexpected.

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Things happen outside your control that change everything.


Losing your parents.

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Losing friends.

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Losing family.

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Someone you were so close to, gone just like that.

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Why does it feel like too much sometimes?

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Why is it that several bad things happen in a row?

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Why does life test us like that?

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Sadly there’s nothing you can do about it.

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You can’t control it.

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It’ll just happen.

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All you can do is deal with it.

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Face struggle head-on.

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As Charlie Munger said in one of the last interviews before he died, just get through it. 


He lost his 3-year-old when he was in his early 30s. 

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Passed away from leukemia.

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It changed him forever.

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As Munger says:

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‘Soldier through.

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If you soldier through, you can get through almost anything.

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It’s your only option.

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You can’t bring back the dead.

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You can’t cure the dying child.

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You can’t do all kinds of things.

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You have to soldier through it.

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Somehow you soldier through.

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If you have to walk through the streets, crying for a few hours a day as part of soldiering, go ahead and cry away.

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But you can’t quit.’

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When you need to grieve, grieve.

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When you need to cry, cry.

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When you need to let it out, let it out.

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But keep going.

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Never quit.

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Time heals all wounds.

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Just stay in it.

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Keep going.

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Stay upright.

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Keep showing up for yourself.

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That’s all you can do when the storm is coming.

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Control what you can and let everything else go.

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Even when it pours.

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'Keep Going You're Doing Great'

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