Do you want to go to Vegas?

Do you want to go to Vegas?

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Do you want to go to Vegas?

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This is a question every guy in his 20s will eventually ask himself.

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Especially in the West.

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Do you want to go to Vegas?

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To party, drink, gamble and have fun?

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Vegas is an adult’s playground.

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For those of you who have never been, I recommend it.

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Just to see the spectacle.

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Dubai tried recreating it in the 2000s.

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Done a pretty good job of it.

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But there’s still something to Vegas.

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At least for the older generation.

They could afford to go.

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My generation can’t.

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But that doesn’t mean we don’t want to.

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I’d argue most adults in the West want to go to Vegas.

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At least once.

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Just to see.

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But here’s the question you have to ask yourself?

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Who do you want to go to Vegas with?

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This is a metaphor.

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A metaphor for life.

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A metaphor for dating.

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A metaphor for finding the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

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I saw this tweet a little while back.

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Someone on Twitter was complaining about how he couldn’t get along with this girl.

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He wanted certain things and she didn’t.

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This other dude commented and basically said ‘do you want to go to Vegas?’

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If you want to go to Vegas, find someone else who wants to go to Vegas.

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If they don’t, then don’t bring them to Vegas.’

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But also, if you’re going to Vegas, you want to bring people who you’ll have fun with in Vegas.

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Who you enjoy.

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Who you want to spend time with.

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Who you want to talk to.

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And experience Vegas together.

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This is life.

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Marriage.

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The choice you make for a long-term partner.

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You have to see if they want to go to Vegas.

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Do they want the same things as you?

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Similar goals?

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Similar values?

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Have similar dreams?

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It’s super important you have that.

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Love comes and goes.

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It’s up and down.

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But having a similar value system keeps relationships together.

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Especially when things get hard.

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The road to Vegas will be bumpy.

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It always has.

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Always will.

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No one gets through this life unscathed.

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But do you have someone who wants to go to Vegas with you?

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All good if they don’t.

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Better you learn that early.

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Seen my best friend spend over a year of his life with a girl who never wanted kids.

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He did.

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Thought he could get through it, but he couldn’t.

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He wanted to go to Vegas.

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She didn’t.

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No problem.

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Better to know that early than later.

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It’s why it’s so important to have conversations more than just what the person likes, or how their day is, or who their friends are.

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Do they want a family?

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Do they want kids?

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Do they want to travel?

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Do they want to challenge themselves?

Where do they want to live?

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What do they see as their dream life?

All of these are very important questions.

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Going to Vegas is the most important decision of your life.

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Don’t you want to know who you’re going to Vegas with?

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Most people never get there.

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Never ask themselves these questions.

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They fall into relationships hoping they work.

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Maybe they will.

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Maybe they won’t.

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But I want to be more intentional about it.

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I want to find someone who wants to go to Vegas.

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Not the normal Vegas.

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But the top of Vegas.

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The peak.

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Going to the front row at the F1, the best Michelin 3-star restaurants and the best shows.

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I want someone who also wants to go to that Vegas.

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But also bring your family and friends along for that.

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Going to Vegas alone is not worth it.

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Many people think that money, status and wealth will make them happy.

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It won’t.

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Not if you’re alone through it.

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You can have all the money in the world, but if you don’t have good relationships, none of it matters.

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The world’s longest study on happiness told us.

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84 years straight of research is clear.

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The happiest people are the ones with the best relationships.

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So don’t forget them.

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Don’t let them slide.

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Don’t let them go.

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Find people you want to bring to Vegas.

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It might take a while.

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Sometimes your whole life.

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But it’s a journey worth taking.

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Because once you find those people, and that person, everything becomes so much better.

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That’s my goal now.

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My number 1 goal.

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Find my Vegas girl.

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Not going to be easy.

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But it’s the most important decision I’ll ever make.

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Will literally make or break my life.

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And I won’t break it.

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So next time you’re thinking about the person or people next to you.

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Ask yourself.

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Would you want to take them to Vegas?

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