What game are you playing?

Understanding what game you're playing, types of games that make you miserable and finding happiness
Jan 29, 2025
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What game are you playing:

What game are you playing?

The money game?

Status game?

Materialism game?

Envy game?

Family game?

Work game?

Success game?

Self-development game?

Experience game?

Happiness game?

Which game is it?

What game are you focused on?

We’re all playing a game in life.

Most of us subconsciously.

Dictated by our parents, upbringing, environment and people we keep around us.

We don’t ask this question.


What game am I playing?

Why?

What do I want my life to be?

What do I want to accomplish?

What do I want to leave as a legacy?

Maybe it’s nothing.

Maybe it’s something.

Whatever it is doesn’t matter.

The point is it matters to you.

Just know this.

Thousands of years of history have given us a few tips.

Play the money game and you will be miserable.

You will forever run a treadmill you will always lose.

You’ll always be playing the comparison game.

Comparing yourself to those ahead of you rather than being content with where you are.

How about the status game?

Also a road to misery.

You will miss your life.

You will chase a title, money, cars, all of it.

And for what?

What happens when you end up alone with no one around you?

Was it all worth it?

Many have told us no.

Because guess what?

You can’t take your money with you.

The Egyptians tried it.

Didn’t work.

All the gold they stored in those tombs was still there.

How about the comparison game?

Making sure you do better than those around you.

Again, another path to misery.

If you are getting your happiness from external things you can’t control, you are doomed.

The goalpost will always shift.

It will always move.

Expectations will always change.

One day you’ll have a nicer watch than your friend.

The next year he has one.

Now what?

Also, things only make you temporarily happy.

They’re status signals.

They’re to show other people how wealthy you are.


This is useful in some contexts.

But if you base your life around this idea, you won’t be happy.

So how about the happiness game?

Why don’t you make that the goal?

Now it’s a tough goal.

You won’t figure it out quickly.

It may take you a few years, decades or even your whole life.

Here’s what I’ve learned about it.

It’s about relationships.

It’s about experiences.

It’s about family.

It’s about internal motivation.

It’s about doing the things that make you happy.

It’s about living the life you want to live because you want to live it.

Not anyone else.

You can never be truly happy if you’re living life on behalf of someone else.

So live your own.

Walk your own path.

Do your own thing.

You only get one.

One life to make it happen.

To play the best game you can.

Don’t play the wrong one.

Most of us are.

So ask yourself.

What game are you playing?

'Keep Going You're Doing Great'

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